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jayparkinsonmd:

Please read all of this, especially if you’re a parent.

How To Land Your Kid in Therapy:

MY FIRST SEVERAL patients were what you might call textbook. As they shared their histories, I had no trouble making connections between their grievances and their upbringings. But soon I met a patient I’ll call Lizzie. Imagine a bright, attractive 20-something woman with strong friendships, a close family, and a deep sense of emptiness. She had come in, she told me, because she was “just not happy.” And what was so upsetting, she continued, was that she felt she had nothing to be unhappy about. She reported that she had “awesome” parents, two fabulous siblings, supportive friends, an excellent education, a cool job, good health, and a nice apartment. She had no family history of depression or anxiety. So why did she have trouble sleeping at night? Why was she so indecisive, afraid of making a mistake, unable to trust her instincts and stick to her choices? Why did she feel “less amazing” than her parents had always told her she was? Why did she feel “like there’s this hole inside” her? Why did she describe herself as feeling “adrift”?

I was stumped. Where was the distracted father? The critical mother? Where were the abandoning, devaluing, or chaotic caregivers in her life?

As I tried to make sense of this, something surprising began happening: I started getting more patients like her. Sitting on my couch were other adults in their 20s or early 30s who reported that they, too, suffered from depression and anxiety, had difficulty choosing or committing to a satisfying career path, struggled with relationships, and just generally felt a sense of emptiness or lack of purpose—yet they had little to quibble with about Mom or Dad.

Instead, these patients talked about how much they “adored” their parents. Many called their parents their “best friends in the whole world,” and they’d say things like “My parents are always there for me.” Sometimes these same parents would even be funding their psychotherapy (not to mention their rent and car insurance), which left my patients feeling both guilty and utterly confused. After all, their biggest complaint was that they had nothing to complain about!

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Sh*t Entrepreneurs Say

incmagazine:

  • “I’m not your typical entrepreneur.”
  • “Trust me. Someday equity will be a lot more important to you than salary.”
  • “R & D is only for people who don’t have a clear vision.”
  • “Our culture is the most important thing.”
  • “I can’t tell you what we’re working on. Just know that it will be huge.”
  • “If it’s not at least a $5 billion market it’s not worth our time.”
  • “All we need now is funding.”
  • “Hey, didn’t I see you at CES?”
  • “We’ll just pivot and nail the next iteration.”
  • “Trust me, it will scale.”
  • “Customers are definitely willing to pay a premium for green.”
  • “Our company? We’re like the Groupon of… no, wait.”
  • “When you consider the bigger picture that’s just a rounding error.”
  • “Once we launch they’ll be forced to react to us.”
  • “We’re targeting a global niche.”

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